I just have to share this amazing story with you....a blind boy who sees....check it out:
Saturday, June 27, 2009
Saturday, June 20, 2009
Self Centred Focus
I recently had an interesting counseling case where the client was bent on proving that he was right. He made an appointment to see me to sort out some issues he has and 5 mins into the counseling, I knew that he had wasted his time and money to come to see me. Because he was bent on interrupting me whenever I had a chance to speak and trying to prove to me that he was right and that he knew what to do!
We do indeed live in a very strange world. :-) I am not saying that I have all the answers to his issues/challenges, but having an ability to listen and process what other people have to say is very much part of healing/learning. Why pay for a counseling session if one is not even open to listening?
Not only do we live in a strange world, I think for the most part the reason why we have so much imbalance within people and in the world is because of 'Self Centred Focus' - Too inward and self involved in one's own issues that one is not able to widen one's perspective. It is unfortunate but true that when people are too self centred focus, there is quite little chance for a person to heal. One of the keys to healing is the ability to see beyond one's problems and learning not to be too caught up because often times the 'solution' is often right in front. Limited perspectives causes one to suffer in one's little world. A widened perspective allows one to be open to solutions and answers. Having said that, it is like a chicken and egg story, because a person with a wide perspective will not see problems as problems but opportunities for learning and growth, so this person will rarely be in a position of being stuck in their little own world. Whereas a narrow minded person will keep going around in circles with little understanding of the need to move beyond the limited perspectives!
I have a personal principle of asking myself whenever I feel stuck in a situation, is there another way to see this? And lo and behold, there always is! And immediately the answer becomes clearer.
I hope this will inspire you to look beyond self imposed limitations and perspectives and allow yourself to expand in wondrous ways!
© 2009
We do indeed live in a very strange world. :-) I am not saying that I have all the answers to his issues/challenges, but having an ability to listen and process what other people have to say is very much part of healing/learning. Why pay for a counseling session if one is not even open to listening?
Not only do we live in a strange world, I think for the most part the reason why we have so much imbalance within people and in the world is because of 'Self Centred Focus' - Too inward and self involved in one's own issues that one is not able to widen one's perspective. It is unfortunate but true that when people are too self centred focus, there is quite little chance for a person to heal. One of the keys to healing is the ability to see beyond one's problems and learning not to be too caught up because often times the 'solution' is often right in front. Limited perspectives causes one to suffer in one's little world. A widened perspective allows one to be open to solutions and answers. Having said that, it is like a chicken and egg story, because a person with a wide perspective will not see problems as problems but opportunities for learning and growth, so this person will rarely be in a position of being stuck in their little own world. Whereas a narrow minded person will keep going around in circles with little understanding of the need to move beyond the limited perspectives!
I have a personal principle of asking myself whenever I feel stuck in a situation, is there another way to see this? And lo and behold, there always is! And immediately the answer becomes clearer.
I hope this will inspire you to look beyond self imposed limitations and perspectives and allow yourself to expand in wondrous ways!
© 2009
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Sunday, June 7, 2009
New Habit
I intend to run the 1/2 marathon again at the end this year and I just started proper training a week ago. And I am glad to share that I have cultivated a new habit of listening to audio books while running. These are mostly motivational and inspirational audio books that I am listening to. I normally use these audio books while commuting, but I realised that listening to them while running would in fact save me even more reading/listening time and this would also enable me to listen/read more books! So I am now more than ever excited to train for the 21km race.
We are all creatures of habit and as I have shared previously, we do everything out of habit from thinking positively to acting positively or thinking negatively to acting negatively and so on.
Nothing gets me going more in life than reminding myself to keep doing positive and inspiring things day in and out. And I try to cultivate new positive habits as often as I can. When I am focusing on doing positive things, I won't have the time or energy to indulge in negative things!
Have you formed a new positive habit today?
We are all creatures of habit and as I have shared previously, we do everything out of habit from thinking positively to acting positively or thinking negatively to acting negatively and so on.
Nothing gets me going more in life than reminding myself to keep doing positive and inspiring things day in and out. And I try to cultivate new positive habits as often as I can. When I am focusing on doing positive things, I won't have the time or energy to indulge in negative things!
Have you formed a new positive habit today?
Saturday, May 2, 2009
Behaving Ourselves Out Of Problems
I was recently inspired by these words:
Talking ourselves out of problems = quick fix
Behaving ourselves out of problems = long term results
As a counselor, one of the things I have come to realise is that people love to TALK about their problems, their issues, their challenges. But when I say, so how do you think you can help yourself in this challenge? Most people get so uncomfortable with the idea of doing something about their problems that they avoid my question altogether and continue complaining and talking about the problems! The reality is that more than 50% of people who go for counseling have no real desire to really change their life choices to enable them to resolve their problems. They just want someone else to agree with them that their life is hard.
One of the key things in which I tend to focus on in my counseling practice is to get people to take responsibility by changing their behaviour patterns to solve their problems. Let me give you an example.
Can a person who says, 'I want to lost weight' and continues to consume high calorie unhealthy food actually lose weight? Obviously not, this person must behave himself/herself out of this weight issue by choosing the right foods and exercising right.
We tell children to behave themselves, but most adults do not behave themselves. They are like children with lack of self control, over indulging in rich unhealthy foods, overspending on things they do not need, over indulging in negative thoughts and emotions, indulging in negative behaviours. Can children behave themselves if adults cannot? This explains why only a very very small percentage of people in the world can truly achieve their goals in a wholesome manner.
Bad behaviour in adults is a real problem. Obviously, it is the cause of most problems we face on earth from crimes to social and environmental concerns. So think about how you can change your behaviour today, not only to transform your own life but to have a positive affect on those around you as well.
Behave yourself out of your problem and you will see long term results.
© 2009
(I will be holding a mini workshop on "How To Behave Ourselves Out Of Our Problems" on Thursday 7 May 7pm-8.30pm @ 19 Tanglin Road, #05-49 Tanglin Shopping Centre. Fee: S$15/- per participant. To register, email: shamala@platinumlightworker.com or phone/SMS 65-97364300. The mini workshop will also be available on CD or Mp3)
Talking ourselves out of problems = quick fix
Behaving ourselves out of problems = long term results
As a counselor, one of the things I have come to realise is that people love to TALK about their problems, their issues, their challenges. But when I say, so how do you think you can help yourself in this challenge? Most people get so uncomfortable with the idea of doing something about their problems that they avoid my question altogether and continue complaining and talking about the problems! The reality is that more than 50% of people who go for counseling have no real desire to really change their life choices to enable them to resolve their problems. They just want someone else to agree with them that their life is hard.
One of the key things in which I tend to focus on in my counseling practice is to get people to take responsibility by changing their behaviour patterns to solve their problems. Let me give you an example.
Can a person who says, 'I want to lost weight' and continues to consume high calorie unhealthy food actually lose weight? Obviously not, this person must behave himself/herself out of this weight issue by choosing the right foods and exercising right.
We tell children to behave themselves, but most adults do not behave themselves. They are like children with lack of self control, over indulging in rich unhealthy foods, overspending on things they do not need, over indulging in negative thoughts and emotions, indulging in negative behaviours. Can children behave themselves if adults cannot? This explains why only a very very small percentage of people in the world can truly achieve their goals in a wholesome manner.
Bad behaviour in adults is a real problem. Obviously, it is the cause of most problems we face on earth from crimes to social and environmental concerns. So think about how you can change your behaviour today, not only to transform your own life but to have a positive affect on those around you as well.
Behave yourself out of your problem and you will see long term results.
© 2009
(I will be holding a mini workshop on "How To Behave Ourselves Out Of Our Problems" on Thursday 7 May 7pm-8.30pm @ 19 Tanglin Road, #05-49 Tanglin Shopping Centre. Fee: S$15/- per participant. To register, email: shamala@platinumlightworker.com or phone/SMS 65-97364300. The mini workshop will also be available on CD or Mp3)
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