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Door Closing
by Dr. Napoleon Hill
Consider the rather serious problems which arise in one’s mind in connection with disappointments and failures of the past, and the broken hearts that occur as the result of the loss of material things or the loss of friends or loved ones.
Self-discipline is the only real solution for such problems. It begins with the recognition of the fact that there are only two kinds of problems: those you can solve, and those you can’t solve.
The problem which can be solved should immediately be cleared by the most practical means available, and those which have no solution should be put out of your mind and forgotten.
Let us think, for a minute, about this process of forgetting. Refer to it as closing the door on some unpleasantness which is disturbing your emotional equilibrium. Self-discipline, which means mastery over all emotions, can enable you to close the door between yourself and the unpleasant experience of the past. You must close the door tightly and lock it securely, so that there is no possibility of its being opened again. This is the way to treat unsolvable problems, too. Those who lack self-discipline often stand in the doorway and look wistfully backward into the past, instead of closing the door and looking forward into the future.
This door closing is a valuable technique. It requires the support of a good, strong will, and you have a strong will if you have the departments of your mind organized and under the control of your ego, as they should be.
Door closing does not make you hard, cold or unemotional, but it does require firmness. Self-discipline cannot permit lurking memories of sad experiences, and it wastes no time worrying over problems which have no solution. You cannot yield to the temptation to relive your unhappy memories, for they destroy your creative force, undermine your initiative, weaken your imagination, disturb your faculty of reason, and generally confuse the departments of your mind.
You must place the power of your will against the door that shuts out that which you wish to forget, or you do not acquire self-discipline. This is one of the major services self-discipline can perform for you. It closes the door tightly against all manner of fears, and opens wide the doors of hope and faith!
Self-discipline closes the door against jealousy, hatred, revenge, greed, anger and superstition, and opens the door to friendship, goodwill, confidence and love.
Self-discipline look forward, not backward. It roots out discouragement and worry and other negative emotions. And it not only encourages the positive emotions, but it forces them to come before the faculty of reason every time they express themselves so that they, too, may be kept under control.
Self-discipline makes your mind strong. It enables you to take possession of your mind and exercise your God-given right to control your mental attitude. You do not have real self-discipline until you organize your mind and keep it clear of all disturbing influences. Every principle of this philosophy must function through your mind, and self-discipline, which keeps your mind orderly, is the controlling factor in this process of becoming successful.
Source: PMA Science of Success. Pgs. 286-288.
Monday, January 18, 2010
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
52 Things To Help You Live More Fulfilling Lives In The 52 Weeks of 2010
1. Read a self development book per month
2. Do a good deed that will make a difference to someone’s life per week eg. help someone to lift something heavy, saying hello to someone who looks depressed…
3. Exercise every other day – swim, run, brisk walk, yoga, tennis, chi gung….
4. Go vegetarian/vegan (if you are not already) at least 3 times a week to help save the planet and practice compassion to other living creatures
5. Reduce, reuse and recycle (in this order)
6. Get out of your comfort zone when you find that you have stagnated simply by taking that first step out
7. Get involved with a charity event, organization or cause
8. In this age where the world is becoming smaller, it is possible to make a new friend per week via the social media like Facebook, Twitter….
9. Make a list of things you have always wanted to do (that are morally, ethically, karmically right) and do them!
10. Attend a course or pick up a skill 3-4 times a year or learn about something new every month
11. Don’t wait for yourself to be perfect in order to make a difference, you will come closer to perfection as you go about trying to make a difference
12. Watch more documentaries such as Animal Planet as opposed to junk TV.
13. Stay away from any kind of junk food. Eat foods that are life giving rather than death inducing
14. Check the labels on your food packages and find out what exactly are you putting into your body. Anything with strange codes or numbers cannot be healthy for you!
15. Re-decorate your home/room by re-arranging your furniture to give your home/room a new feel
16. Donate used clothes
17. Confront your inner most fears and talk about them or write them down to gain clarity on the cause of the fears
18. Save electricity and water for your pocket and the environment
19. Use less paper in everything you do
20. Before you buy anything, think and re-think if you really need it and if you can live without it
21. Laugh more
22. Say thank you with a smile
23. Apologise quickly when you know the mistake has been made
24. Admit mistakes and don’t try to weasel your way out that may hurt yourself or someone else in the long term
25. Listen patiently to someone who may speak too slowly for your liking
26. Speak clearly
27. Make eye contact with others when you speak
28. Pretend that your family members are people you are meeting for the first time so that you will be on your best behaviour when you see them
29. Don’t take your family and good friends for granted.
30. Go on a date with your spouse/partner every week. If you are single, go on a date with yourself!
31. Have fun activities with your children or other people’s children if you don’t have any.
32. Organize your time and energy more effectively so that you are not doing the same thing twice
33. Make to-do lists
34. Do what is on your to-do lists
35. Complete what is on your to-do lists
36. Pray, meditate or perform a spiritual practice that will allow your inner self to be nourished daily
37. Be kind to yourself
38. Be kinder to others in words
39. Be kinder to others in your actions
40. Breathe deeply
41. Use personal and household products that will not harm the environment or yourself (check the labels and find out what exactly are the unpronounceable ingredients in your toothpaste!)
42. Do the most difficult or least enjoyable things first in your day, the rest of the day will be more fun
43. Conquer/Master one bad habit every 3 months
44. Walk, cycle and use the public transport – it is cheaper and better for the environment
45. Don’t complain, be proactive
46. Don't waste time gossiping, no one has ever benefited from gossips
47. Spend more time with people and friends who are positive
48. Say one positive thing about yourself to yourself first thing in the morning (daily) when you look at yourself in the mirror
49. Enjoy your work. If you are not, do something about it.
50. Don’t give excuses for not doing what you should be doing if you want to live a more fulfilling life. Excuses are toxic for your wellbeing.
51. Plant a tree for every book you have read (visit www.ecolibris.net)
52. Read this list once a week to keep yourself in check
© Shamala Tan 2010 copyright reserved
2. Do a good deed that will make a difference to someone’s life per week eg. help someone to lift something heavy, saying hello to someone who looks depressed…
3. Exercise every other day – swim, run, brisk walk, yoga, tennis, chi gung….
4. Go vegetarian/vegan (if you are not already) at least 3 times a week to help save the planet and practice compassion to other living creatures
5. Reduce, reuse and recycle (in this order)
6. Get out of your comfort zone when you find that you have stagnated simply by taking that first step out
7. Get involved with a charity event, organization or cause
8. In this age where the world is becoming smaller, it is possible to make a new friend per week via the social media like Facebook, Twitter….
9. Make a list of things you have always wanted to do (that are morally, ethically, karmically right) and do them!
10. Attend a course or pick up a skill 3-4 times a year or learn about something new every month
11. Don’t wait for yourself to be perfect in order to make a difference, you will come closer to perfection as you go about trying to make a difference
12. Watch more documentaries such as Animal Planet as opposed to junk TV.
13. Stay away from any kind of junk food. Eat foods that are life giving rather than death inducing
14. Check the labels on your food packages and find out what exactly are you putting into your body. Anything with strange codes or numbers cannot be healthy for you!
15. Re-decorate your home/room by re-arranging your furniture to give your home/room a new feel
16. Donate used clothes
17. Confront your inner most fears and talk about them or write them down to gain clarity on the cause of the fears
18. Save electricity and water for your pocket and the environment
19. Use less paper in everything you do
20. Before you buy anything, think and re-think if you really need it and if you can live without it
21. Laugh more
22. Say thank you with a smile
23. Apologise quickly when you know the mistake has been made
24. Admit mistakes and don’t try to weasel your way out that may hurt yourself or someone else in the long term
25. Listen patiently to someone who may speak too slowly for your liking
26. Speak clearly
27. Make eye contact with others when you speak
28. Pretend that your family members are people you are meeting for the first time so that you will be on your best behaviour when you see them
29. Don’t take your family and good friends for granted.
30. Go on a date with your spouse/partner every week. If you are single, go on a date with yourself!
31. Have fun activities with your children or other people’s children if you don’t have any.
32. Organize your time and energy more effectively so that you are not doing the same thing twice
33. Make to-do lists
34. Do what is on your to-do lists
35. Complete what is on your to-do lists
36. Pray, meditate or perform a spiritual practice that will allow your inner self to be nourished daily
37. Be kind to yourself
38. Be kinder to others in words
39. Be kinder to others in your actions
40. Breathe deeply
41. Use personal and household products that will not harm the environment or yourself (check the labels and find out what exactly are the unpronounceable ingredients in your toothpaste!)
42. Do the most difficult or least enjoyable things first in your day, the rest of the day will be more fun
43. Conquer/Master one bad habit every 3 months
44. Walk, cycle and use the public transport – it is cheaper and better for the environment
45. Don’t complain, be proactive
46. Don't waste time gossiping, no one has ever benefited from gossips
47. Spend more time with people and friends who are positive
48. Say one positive thing about yourself to yourself first thing in the morning (daily) when you look at yourself in the mirror
49. Enjoy your work. If you are not, do something about it.
50. Don’t give excuses for not doing what you should be doing if you want to live a more fulfilling life. Excuses are toxic for your wellbeing.
51. Plant a tree for every book you have read (visit www.ecolibris.net)
52. Read this list once a week to keep yourself in check
© Shamala Tan 2010 copyright reserved
Saturday, January 2, 2010
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