Choices

Of late, I've been hearing a lot of people say that they did this or that because they didn't have a choice. I am a person who believes that we all have choices, and that we are in truth never cornered into a no choice situation. Obviously, I came to this conclusion only after having made many mistakes in life!

I now know that the idea that I didn't have choices came about through plain laziness. Laziness in thought, laziness in being proactive in my own life, laziness in dealing with the consequences of the choices I made.

As a mother, I know fully well the consequences I have to deal with when our daughter was put in childcare because I made the choice to also have service work as a priority in my life. I know that life will not be complete for me even if I were to spend all my waking hours with my young daughter because of my passion for my service work. Some people have said that I didn't have a choice but to put my daughter in child care because what I do is my vocation in life. However, I know that I do have a choice, I could have put my life's work on hold but I didn't. I know that by putting my life's work on hold, it will not make me a better mother. In fact, it is through my work that I am a better mother! Because my work enables to be stimulated all the time and I am constantly learning to be better psychologically and spiritually.

In terms of addictions and bad habits, I am still dealing with the consequences of the wayward choices of my past, but I do not complain about them, nor do I see them as negative things. I have made the choice to see the consequences as part of my learning journey and it has empowered me in more ways than one.

Dr Stone, one of my heroes always said, making a bad decision is better than not making a decision at all.

I agree, not making a choice is like being part of a bad choice by circumstances and being completely taken over it and losing self in the process. At least when you consciously make a 'bad choice', you have the capacity and power to learn from it and eventually see the 'bad choice' as an opportunity for growth.

I hope that whatever you are dealing with, you are able to see that you are a part of that choice made and a part of the process and consequence as well and in truth, you always have a choice in how you wish to perceive them.

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